What is Sex Menu App?

Do you know what sexual fantasies your partner has? Do you know their secret desires? And do they know yours? Do you want to be kinkier but don't know how to ask?

Or maybe you're out of ideas or just want to spice up your sex life?

Sex Menu App is for you!

A sex menu is something most people haven’t heard of, and if they have, haven’t got around to completing one.

After reading this guide, I hope you’ll consider filling one in. I promise it’ll help you have even hotter, more intense sex, and spice up your relationship.

Sex Menu App is the best implementation of a full fledged sex menu. It provides you everything you need to find out your and your partner’s desires. It gives you the easiest way to start communicating about your secret dreams and helps to avoid embarrassing moments.

Also it can bring up new ideas, spice up or revitalise your relationship.

Even the free starter package (more than 200 questions) offers a wide range of topics from intim jewellery and sex toys through various sexual activities to threesome and foursome sex.

Not to mention the other packages available for purchase, which not only provide even more exciting questions on these topics, but are organised into thematic packages with more specialised questions.

How does Sex Menu App work?

A sex menu is a list of sexual activities against which you place a score indicating how much you’d like to try that thing. You may also hear a sex menu as being referred to as a ‘desires list’ or ‘sex act menu’.

Until now sex menus were typically written out on paper or nowdays in spreadsheets for easy filtering and discussion of results. But now life is much easier because you can use this application

Having the app you can download packages containing several hundreds of activities and you can give a score for each one:

Hard limit no way you do that
Soft limit don't want but if necessary you let it go
Indifferent indifferent for you
Interesting but afraid You find it interesting but a bit afraid of something. This is the typical answer where it is recommended to use the comment feature.
Interesting interesting but not sure yet
Try you haven't done before but want to try it
Yes please yes please, you have already done it, like it and want to do
Need it absolutely a must in your sexual life

Also you can comment your choice.

You can invite your parter (as many as you like). They will see the same questions that you see and they can also give the scores on their phone.

As you are connected within the app you can see each other's answers and the matches (or mismatches).

Why create a sex menu?

There are four main reasons why you should consider creating a sex menu:

1. Foster good communication

Good communication is the pillar of a relationship. But talking about sex is difficult for people, especially if you’ve just started dating someone. The anxiety in all of use tends to rear up when we have to ask our partners to try something new sexually. You’ll never know how your partner is going to react until you do finally confess to all your kinks.

There’s something about a sex menu which makes the whole process easier. There’s a sense of permission to speak about sex granted by the unknown person who wrote all the acts down, reducing them to letters on a page, destigmatising them and reducing the associated shame. No need to speak the words out loud, but instead a single tap of your finger on the keyboard marks your interest level.

And after that, the discussion with your partner becomes a little easier.

2. Discover new things

A sex menu lists out a whole load of sexual activities, ones you may not have even heard of before (sounding and sploosh, anyone?). With the list in front of you, you’ll be able to further your knowledg, looking up anything you’ve not come across, and thinking whether it’s something you’d like to try.

3. Give and get consent

Discussing and completing a sex menu is a form of consent.

If someone marks a sexual activity as something there ‘really want to do’, then that is partial consent. And if you discuss their score and decide to try it when next visit the bedroom, that’s further consent. (You still need to triple check with them when you do eventually do get round to it though, as they may have changed their mind.)

A sex menu makes it far easier to ensure you are engaging in your activities in a safe, sane and consensual manner.

4. Minimise risk

Some sex menus have space to alert your partner to any medical conditions or allergies you may have. This includes sexually transmitted infections. No-one wants to witness an allergic reaction when you whip out the peanut butter and spread it over her body. Write down anything your partner needs to know to ensure your play remains safe at all times. You can use comments in the app to give special instructions.

Filling out your sex menu

I recommend completing your menu in private, without your partner present. Without the pressure of them looking over your shoulder you are going to be more honest.

Here are some tips to keep in mind as you go:

Be honest. There’s no point in filling in your sex menu if you aren’t going to be truthful. Trust your partner will not judge you. And if they do, maybe it’s worth considering if their values match yours.
Don’t put yourself in your partner’s shoes. Normally I am all for empathy and thinking about other people. But this is YOUR sex menu. You may be tempted to score a sex act highly because you know they love them even if you don’t. Score it fairly, according to your preferences. Don’t be a people pleaser on this. Anyway, they also fill theirs, this is the way to find the real matches.
Write comments to your answers. Make it clear, in what conditions you might do something, what you are afraid of, or just clarify how you interpret that question.
You can also create hastags fo your answers to create your own groupings of questions. This can help to focus on the questions that really matter to you.
Have fun. This isn’t a school exam. Complete it seriously but not solemnly. After all, we are talking sex here which should be one of the most fun things you can do!

Have the discussion

Once you both have filled in your menus, you can check for the matches. And for the better communication, schedule a time when both of you can sit together to discuss. Make sure you are free from distractions (kids, phones, TV in the background), and in a neutral setting (i.e. not in bed).

Foster a sense of openness by agreeing to answer honestly, and not to judge each other’s scores. Approach the discussion with a sense of curiosity.

You may like very different things – that’s okay.

Be curious as to what it is about that act which she enjoys. If you are not open to trying it, you may find an alternative way to elicit the same feelings for her using another method.

As you go, make a list of 5 things which you both want to try in the next 30 days. This is your sex action plan!

Incorporate some of these activities when you next play.

Revisit your menu

Over time your tastes will change. I’ve been with partners who had a low score for butt plugs, but six months later absolutely loved them.

Review your sex menu a couple of times a year to track how your preferences change, and also to find more things you might like to try with a partner.

Conclusion

A sex menu is a useful tool to have in your relationship arsenal. No matter if you are only dating or living in a long term relationship, a sex menu makes it more likely you will get what you want in the bedroom (and out of it) in a safe and consensual manner.